Tell your date if you are someone who seeks friendship first or needs time to fall in love. Sometimes we get so flooded by first impressions and things to look out for, it's difficult to just feel what it's like to sit with this person. Or does it feel crowded, overwhelming, or make you nervous? We listen, pay attention, and want to be there for the other.
You may scare away a few flakes, and instead attract people who will really appreciate you.2. If you don't like loud bars, don't go there. If your date won't allow you to get a word in edgewise, it's not the right person for you. Make sure you actually enjoy hanging out with your date.5. Make sure you get to be on the receiving end of the equation.
If seeing a movie with friends makes you happy and you haven't been to the theatre in two months, then make it happen.
I don't follow this routine, but I have used affirmations in the past, and can agree that they are helpful.Remember, try not to think about what others are thinking of you in this moment. Because just as you are thinking about what others might be thinking, they're thinking the same thing. Did you know that NBA legend Bill Russel got 'butterflies in his stomach' before every game?These feelings are largely universal, people just deal differently. I'm sure if you are reading this article you've had some experience in life, you've amassed certain unique qualities, stories, and perspectives. You are a snowflake, as corny as that sounds:) Again, accept your differences, realize that what some may perceive as a weakness can actually be a strength. So how can you stay calm, cool, and collected as you set out on the search for the perfect mate? The truth is that going on a date can be downright nerve-wrackingand if you suffer from shyness or social anxiety, it is especially so.Don't fight the voice, instead acknowledge that 'Hey, I'm feeling shy right now.' Accept the feeling.