As the forthcoming Hollywood film Friends With Benefits reveals, a no-strings relationship often leaves at least one half of the couple — and usually it’s the woman — feeling confused, unsatisfied, and wholly unconvinced by the ‘benefits’ they’re supposed to be relishing.Lucy Waterson is one of a growing number of young women in their late 20s and early 30s who have embarked on a Friend With Benefits liaison.Using other people’s research or ideas without giving them due credit is plagiarism.Since Bib Me™ makes it easy to create citations, build bibliographies and acknowledge other people’s work, there is no excuse to plagiarize.I enjoy her company, and I love being with her — I just don’t want to go out with her. She seems to understand me in a way that a lot of women don’t.’‘I have a feeling I’ll meet a woman and know she is perfect for me, but that hasn’t happened with Lucy.’ The fact he is risking their friendship by treating her with so little respect seems not to occur to him.She explains: ‘Young people today, male and female, pretend sex is no more important than a handshake.That is certainly the view of Rachel Morris, a psychotherapist specialising in sex and relationships, who predicts an unhappy outcome for Lucy and Doug — and for any other friends in a set-up likes theirs.
When we first met, I think Doug was more into me than I was into him, but now the situation has reversed and I don’t know where I stand.
To a selfish man with commitment phobia, it might sound like the perfect relationship — a close female friend with whom they can enjoy companionship, shared holidays, a good laugh . There is even a term for it — Friends With Benefits — the supposed benefit being that the friends not only enjoy each other’s company, but sleep with one another, too.
For a growing number of young women, sleeping with a friend is no longer a taboo but a lifestyle choice.
Yet intimacy has a profound effect on the emotions, which can be very confusing, especially for women.’‘Men, however, are biologically programmed to sow their seed and seem able to disconnect emotionally from sex in a way that women cannot.
So friends with benefits relationships are often more emotionally confusing and upsetting for women.’‘We meet up every couple of weeks, go for a drink or see a film.