The merchandise is returned to the vendors, the pro-dater and the various accomplices take in their respective cut of the take.As the pro-dater is eager to date again, the next date is immediately set up with the next wealthy foreigner.They tell their victims that they are lonely, supporting an orphanage with their own money, needing financial assistance because they can't access their own money in a combat zone, etc.The money is always sent to a third party to be collected for the scammer.Letters are exchanged between the scammer and victim until the scammer feels they have groomed the victim enough to ask for money.This might be for requests for gas money or bus and airplane tickets to travel to visit the victim, medical expenses, education expenses etc.
The fraud typically involves the scammer acting as if they've quickly fallen for the victim so that when they have the opportunity to ask for money, the victim at that time has become too emotionally involved, and will have deep feelings of guilt if they decline the request for money from the scammer.
Some scammers may also use Bitcoin as an alternative payment method.
Sensitive people are more vulnerable to online dating scams, based on a study conducted by the British Psychological Society.
Victims may be invited to travel to the scammer's country; in some cases the victims arrive with asked-for gift money for family members or bribes for corrupt officials, and then they are beaten and robbed or murdered.
A rapidly growing technique scammers are using is to impersonate American military personnel.