According to the study findings, the most common place to meet a spouse is at work or at school (38 percent)."Through a friend or family member" came in second (27 percent), while "on an online dating site" came in third (17 percent) — hardly the "35 percent of Americans" as claimed in the earlier study.Hardly unbiased results, but at first blush it reads impressively.Here's an excerpt from an article on : "A recent study funded by [a major dating website] suggests that as many as 35 percent of Americans now meet their spouses online.If this is all so fantastic, why do I receive hundreds of messages every week asking why he didn't call, why she lied about being married, why he pretended to love her and then disappeared, and much, much more?The “Business” of Online Dating Success When it comes to measuring the success of online and mobile dating, it turns out that research studies and success stories are usually gathered via commissioned research through a third party and paid for by the dating site.But after connecting with thousands of women via my Facebook page and hearing their tales of missed dates, mixed messages, and misunderstood expectations, the horror stories seem to outnumber any purported success rate by a very wide margin. Don't we all hear how great the apps and sites are? You answer a few questions and then get to meet someone who is (supposedly) a great match.The dating site's algorithm auto-magically pairs you up with like-minded people who have similar interests, hobbies, life goals... And with mobile apps like Tinder, it’s all based on proximity and the “first sight”phenomenon.
But when it comes to love, all technology does is leave a wake of emotional destruction, disconnection, and false positives.
And while the questions these surveys do ask are usually centered on individual wants, needs, behaviors, and characteristics, they only address a very small part of what makes human beings compatible.
These compatibility tests don’t take into account upbringing, childhood environment and/or teenage influences, nor do they address changing attitudes and needs. There’s no qualification other than sending a witty, snarky remark that will get their attention; the proverbial wet dream for any pick-up artist.
What's more, the study suggests that those marriages are less likely to end in divorce than those that begin offline."What this article silently implies is that the phrase "meet their spouses online" translates to "meet their spouses while using an online dating site." However, if you read the complete study (and most people don't), you’ll quickly discover that "online" means exactly that: on the internet.
Meeting someone online is now commonplace, a reflection of how we as a culture now socialize, not a feather in the cap of the online dating industry.