Next time you see a cute girl, maybe a girl next door type – think to yourself: that chick is one of the 65% secretly submissive women out there, just dying to be dominated by a man. Say, “come be my queen,” and motion for her to join you.You are dominant by position, she submissive by being smaller and snuggling up to you.And with all due respect to real mommies, no one feels sexy in a relationship as “mommy.” And it does all come down to sex, doesn’t it?How we feel outside the bedroom directly impacts how we feel inside the bedroom.And by using the word “Queen” you’re putting her second to you, the King.It can’t be explained in detail without more discussion on theory and its more wide spread application in life.But when I say what I want with a man is a “traditional” relationship, I really mean the masculine/feminine dynamic and not one where one person has power over the other.
So why do those things seem so hard to reconcile with my desire to feel looked after and taken care of? That’s a fine way to be, of course, but sometimes it can veer off into a no-no zone of continually putting other people’s needs and wants before my own.
Though I have a caring nature, I hate feeling like I’m someone’s mommy in a relationship.
Feeling as if there’s an unequal power balance tipped in my favor makes me nervous and overwhelmed.
I guess that the alternative — a guy with feminine energy who exploits my masculine energy and lets it bleed into our personal life — feels self-centered to me.
I am not saying it is self-centered; I’m just saying for me, in my relationships, it feels self-centered.