Editor's Note: These features will be rolling out with the patch If you’ve been question-mark pinging (? There’s also a new option to unanimously surrender at 15 in all non-RGM queues. Also, an update to the ‘On my way’ ping rolls out later this summer. The new ping-mute button axes standard pings, smart pings, and the newer HUD pings.
) us about the ability to mute pings, it’s happening.
And given " instead of what I usually do: sobbing uncontrollably while manically downloading meditation apps. I expect that I will continue to for some time to come, if not forever.
But between my therapist who helps me question my negative beliefs, my friends who keep telling me to not take things personally, and my own relentless work on myself to shake loose from these painful storylines, I’m making some progress.
Coincidentally, it turned out the San Franciscan was going to be in New York City that weekend, and we made plans to meet when he arrived.
Now, when a guy effusively expresses interest in me then abruptly changes his mind or ghosts after sex, I can think about how it’s likely that given his particular emotional wounds, he hit a wall for intimacy and had to retreat.Everything was going great until we had sex and he ghosted me. Soon after, a really cute guy from San Francisco messaged me on Tinder (we'd matched when I was in his area for a wedding).The West Coast was a little far to pursue anything serious, but I was just so happy to feel excited about someone else to get my mind off the ghoster.Most of the time when guys disappear like that, they’re really just gone for good.In the absence of reassurance from a man, one day I want to be able to tell myself that it’s not about me—and believe it.After being ghosted and dealing with canceled dates, I found myself crying over random dudes.