I don’t understand what the attraction is to shiny pants, thick striped shirts and hair that is carefully patted down to one side and glistening with coconut oil.Don’t get me wrong, I am far less interested in a person’s looks, but a sense of personal style is part of what makes someone attractive in my opinion, and what someone’s mother finds attractive is not usually what a potential mate may find appealing.So which one is true, or are they the two faces of the same person.It continued on for pages and pages, lists of sites denigrating the Indian male and trying to explain reasons for his various “behaviours”. Up popped a range of sites of beautiful women, dating sites, some women’s rights organisations and beauty websites.
The constant spitting (apparently due to chewing tobacco), public urination (and by this I mean pulling it out anywhere there is space and going), nose picking and staring at me (usually whilst also fiddling with their nether regions) are a few of the distasteful activities I observed.
Reflecting on these experience I felt a bit perplexed, so I typed “Indian Men” into Google.
Up popped a couple of sites linking me to “Hot Men” lists, and of course the obligatory dating site where I could find Indian men.
Even if I try and rationalise the behaviour, after all there is a dire lack of sanitation facilities in India hence the need for public urination, looking through my western eyes I found my attraction to men waning.
These behaviours appear to be generally accepted in Indian culture, no one bats an eyelid going about their day.