I think sometimes when I meet girls here my mind goes crazy! For me even though I may only inspire one more person to shift their perspective… maybe it will inspire foreigners who are here for girls (for the wrong reasons) to at THE VERY LEAST respect this culture and these beautiful women.
In Philippine culture, courtship is far more subdued and indirect unlike in some Western societies.In the Philippines, if a man wants to be taken seriously by a woman, he has to visit the latter's family and introduce himself formally to the parents of the girl. , an old fine Tagalog word that indicates a man's declaration of his love by overt action, verbal or otherwise.It is rather inappropriate to court a woman and formalize the relationship without informing the parents of the girl. Usually it's non-verbal -- singing, glancing or stealing glances, services -- and indirect. They express the content of the heart that pursues.Later, couples may go out on their own, but this is still to be done discreetly. If we don't then we go through another cycle of life, another cycle of searching.If the couple has decided to come out in the open about their romance, they will tell their family and friends as well. Love or, I suppose, marriage in the myth is the discovery of our other half. We go through life looking for our other half, that which would complete us. Life is a quest for completion by way of finding the Man or Woman who is our lost other half.There is this complete sense of disbelief when I tell them otherwise. I talk about the amazing little inspiring traits I see in Filipino hearts. I get scared that I will lose that chance to challenge Filipinos to see the other things in their culture that are beautiful.