Your date might remind you of your time constraint (“But I thought you needed to be home at 8…”). People who are dating online actively will appreciate your planning for a bad date and like the fact that you are saying to them “this is a good date”.
If you would rather not let them in on your planning for the worst-date-scenario, just say that you’d prefer to cancel your previous plans and spend your evening with them.
I once talked to a woman for two months before we met.
She was very nice and we got along well so I was willing to communicate but let her know I’d be talking to others while she gained comfort.
After the hour was over, I explained that I only extend the good dates and since ours was a great date asked if she would be up for miniature golf (she was).If you really hit it off on the phone (for example, did you talk for two hours without even realizing it? Regardless of the success of the first phone call, I still think the first date should come rapidly so don’t wait too long to move from phone conversations to a real meeting. Hint or specifically state that you can only be out until a certain time.Most people will accept this or make a joke in an attempt to fish for more information (“What, have another hot date after ours? You can come up with a reason you can only be out for a set amount of time but most people will not press very hard to find out why.By this point you have talked back and forth twice and can measure how well you are getting along.You will be able to judge the situation better as you communicate: sometimes you’ll get a date on your first email, other times you may realize a few weeks of communication would be best.Limiting the time of the first date is a safety precaution: if you end up on a nightmare of a date you’ve already established your “out”.