“Dating single dads” may not be on your bucket list, but it turns out that single fatherhood is a mental shortcut to learning desirable traits about a potential new man.
To remedy my fears, I turned to seasoned dating coaches, Julianne Cantarella, MSW, and Elisabeth Lamotte, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, to figure out the biggest dating mistakes single moms make (and the smart moves that should replace them). "It's not only the woman who can be hurt if the relationship ends, but the children as well." A savvy single mom should wait as long as possible before introducing her kids to the potential boyfriend and never make the intro around the holidays, the experts advise."Women should gain a sense of her boyfriend's interaction based on how he treats her and possibly his own children if he has them," says Cantarella, who suggests erring on the side of caution.
(Don’t worry, we can blame our subconscious next time we ogle a young dad in the baby food aisle!
) Plus, we have very real evidence that another woman pre-vetted him and decided his genetic material was worth passing on.
As any of the 272,000 followers of the Instagram account “DILFs of Disneyland” will tell you, there’s just something about a man with a baby.
In fact, the data analysts at behavioral matchmaking site Zoosk recently learned that single dads receive 22% more first messages than those without children.